The Restorative

The following mini report represents a summarised version your child's Signature Personality. It is one of eight life aspects contained in the Authentic Self Profile Tool. The profile tool has three major categories. Firstly your child's innate talents which the Signature Personally forms part of. Secondly your child's life purpose and thirdly the major behavioural challenges your child will need to master to realise their potential. 

Your child's Signature Personality is their dominant way of responding to the world. Expressing this is key to unlocking their power and potential. Your child's Signature Personality is akin to them signing their signature on everything you do. It is the way they will leave their biggest mark on the world every day. Without its positive daily expression it will be difficult for your child to realise their full potential.

If your child has The Restorative as their Signature Personality they will have strong planning and organisational skills. Their natural inclination will be to bring order to chaos. This is best achieved through the creation of structure, systems and processes. This combined with a responsible attitude means that others can rely on them to get things done right. 

Out of all the archetypes The Restorative is the most difficult to manage. The Restorative major self-sabotaging tendency is the need for order and a precise way of doing things which can turn them into control freaks. Flexibility does not come naturally to them and they will want to do things their way. When things don’t conform to their orderly standards they have a tendency to want to control and force them to do so. As a parent you may find getting them to do things they do not want to do difficult. 

Teaching your child that their world is not going to fall apart if something is not done a particular way will be important. It is also important to understand that your child's need for control is based on a fear that something might go wrong. They can inadvertently believe that if things aren’t done a certain way then failure and other negative consequences are going to occur.

.Let them play with building toys where the same blocks can be used to create different objects. This way they learn that not everything has to be done the same way. Teach them the advantages of when they do things differently they get more fun from the same toy. Encourage them to use their logical and planning talents to create things that others cannot. Praise them every time they achieve something through having a flexible approach. Reinforce the advantages of creating different strategies to solve a particular problem. Try and avoid games and tasks that do not require flexible thinking.

Another self-sabotaging aspect of The Restorative is having a rebel without a cause attitude. This can cause them to become rebellious of rules and restrictions. This usually occurs because they believe their way of doing things is better than everyone else's. Rebellion becomes their way of controlling the world. As a parent this can make parenting them extremely difficult. The more critical you are of them the worse the rebellious behaviour will become. A much better strategy is ask why they think their way is better? If their answer makes sense then let them do it. If not ask them if there was a better and faster way to do this would they do it? By engaging them in conversation what you are doing is appealing to their logical mind which takes them out of the emotion and allows them to develop solutions which matches their logical thinking processes. Often it is easier to take The Restorative out of an emotional tantrum because they respond well to logic. Questions are a wonderful way of activating the rational brain so use them with your child. 

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